We like to think we live in a society where we don’t see color, race, and ethnicity. Yes, we know that’s not strictly true, but by thinking this way, we might be able to turn it into a reality. But that’s “thinking.” Fancying and pheromones are an entirely different thing. Dating app AYI (Are You Interested) decided to analyze the data of their users to check out this theory.
They ran data from two million users, looking primarily at what ethnicity people were choosing to opt for when they searched for dates.
Josh Fischer, VP of Product & Insights for AYI.com said,“In general we found that people stay away from their own ethnicity when searching. There was this preconception that people want to date people of their own ethnicity and that’s not the case.”
AYI created a graphic that showed how people responded to different ethnicities when scrolling through their images on the dating site. Basically hot or not style choosing. Sure, we can take into account the topless selfie’s and reprobates but overall, a number of strong findings based on specific ethnicity were found.
Here’s what they came up with:
- The data showed that Asian women are the most preferred by all men except Asian men – who prefer Hispanic women.
- Asian, Hispanic and Caucasian women prefer Caucasian men while Caucasian men are more likely to respond to everyone but Caucasian women.
- Caucasian women are twice as likely to respond to Caucasian men than African-American men.
- African-American men are more likely to respond to women of different races but receive three times more responses from African-American women than a non-black woman.
- African-American women prefer all races over Caucasian men but are the least likely to get a response from all men.
Irene LaCota, spokesperson for matchmaking service Its Just Lunch backed up Fischer’s data. “We have seen a trend with younger men being more open to dating different ethnicities,” she said via email. “For example, young asian men are requesting to be matched with caucasian women.”
Writer Kristina Wong has noticed a trend in Caucasian men dating her - who openly admit to having an Asian fetish.
“With white guys I’ve dated, I’m constantly finding out that I’m one in a long line of Asian women they’ve dated. It’s awkward,” she wrote on XOJane.
“When I ask these guys: “What’s up with your long history of dating so many Asian women?” It’s like I’ve triggered the shaming meltdown of a lifetime — dudes get nervous, defensive and very rarely, are willing to engage in an inevitably uncomfortable conversation about race.”
“For some singles ethnicity is extremely important and a deal breaker. “ said LaCota. “Our matchmakers will encourage our clients to be open-minded and not paint such a 'tight picture' of who they want to date. “
LaCota did have some positive words of advice however. “ Chemistry trumps all when it comes to getting to the second date,“ she said.
It's good to know - from a bona fide matchmaker - that no matter what your ethnicity, the connection is what really counts.