Marijuana may be one of the most magical plants on the planet. It can help alleviate a child’s painful seizures, it can help cancer patients endure chemo—and it can revolutionize our sex lives. Yet in the United States, the federal government still deems it illegal.
This is why, when we come face-to-face with evidence of its seemingly magical powers, we feel obliged to share these accounts. Which brings us to Terri D., a 46-year-old housewife, grandmother, former preschool teacher, and gym enthusiast from Texas. Terri recently began smoking pot regularly, and her sex life—and orgasms—have never been better.
How much better? While high on a particular strain, Terri says she could orgasm "70 times a day." She can think herself to orgasm. (Yes, this is a real thing.) "I can be in the bedroom for four or five hours," she told me. "I don’t know how, but it’s a crazy miracle!"
Terri was so excited by how the green stuff is transforming her life, the newly converted weed evangelist reached out to Fusion with her story—eager to spread the word.
Terri, paint me a picture—what was your sex life like before weed?
I have been married for 26 years. I met my husband when I was 17, and before I got married I didn’t have a lot of experience, a lot of boyfriends—but the ones I did have, none of them could make me have an orgasm. When I married my husband, in the beginning, he had to work very hard to give me orgasms, which he did, but as the years went on—with kids and life—it got to the point that I couldn’t come at all anymore.
But you were having a lot of sex still?
Yes, I had a great sex life, we had sex almost everyday … I just didn’t really get any benefits from it at all. We tried different ways, different positions, toys—nothing could make me come. I was convinced I was never going to orgasm again.
So, what changed? Why did you think to try weed?
I didn't! I had no idea weed could help me orgasm. I wasn’t searching this out. I had smoked pot before, in my teen years, but I don’t like the feeling of being stoned. Nowadays, my daughter will give me some [pot] every once in awhile, but I never did it that much.
Then about two weeks ago I was given this different strain—Purple Tangie*. My husband was out of town at the time, so I used it, and I started touching myself, and everything changed. I could feel everything all at once. I just began enjoying my entire body. The feeling … it was life changing.
*The strain Terri is talking about is made by Zeinstein Gardens in California. It is an award-winning sativa-dominate hybrid, with a THC level of 16 to 20%. Sativas generally cause feelings of euphoria, happiness, and energy.
So you were able to orgasm again—by yourself and with your husband?
Oh yes! [When high], I can control my orgasms now. I can make them hard, long, soft, short, intense. It used to be, [when having sex], I would think, "Can we be done now?" But now I can be in the bedroom for four or five hours. I don’t know how, but it’s a crazy miracle!
Not only that, I can have an orgasm without even touching myself—in my mind. I can also use this electronic wand I have, this little light, and I can take it all over my arm and my body and I can have an orgasm. I can orgasm in the bathroom, in my car. I would say about 70 times a day, if I wanted to. I promise you I am not exaggerating.
How does your husband feel about this?
My husband is so happy for me! I can have sex all night long now.
Before, I always felt bad because my husband always tried so hard to make me have an orgasm every time—I mean, he was the first guy ever to really give me an orgasm in the first place. He tried really hard all those years, but I just couldn’t get there. And now it’s so easy for me to come, and I love that he’s the only guy to ever make me come this much! I love it.
But it’s more than just sex for you? Can you talk about some of the other benefits?
Yes, it’s world changing. When I am high, I have a better self-image—and that is a really cool feeling, because I have never had a great image of myself. I was not raised well. My mother was an alcoholic and did drugs. I had strange people in and out of the house all the time. I never felt good about myself. This whole experience has been a healing process for me for all the heartache I went through.
Now I feel more confident as a woman. I feel like there’s not anything wrong with me, and I can hold my head up high. I feel better about my body. Before, I always had some kind of shirt on—now I am so free with my body that everything has to come off. And I enjoy sex a lot more because of it.
I just enjoy my body more. It’s a totally different feeling.
Well I am very “in the moment now.” I am a deep thinker when I am high, and I have a very sweet, chilled-out feeling. I listen to music, and with this strain—it sounds corny—but the music sounds so incredible, it’s just amazing. Plus, I have been taking sleep medication for seven years, and now I have been able to cut the dose in half.
Some people still hold negative stereotypes of people who smoke pot. But you're a mother and a grandmother and have discovered this amazing sexual reawakening. So what is your everyday life like?
Well, I used to be a preschool teacher, but we moved out to the suburbs and I haven't gone back to work for five or six years. I hang out with my girls. I spend a lot of time with my children and a lot of time my grandchildren. Really, it’s a very regular life—I go out to dinner, I go to the gym a lot. That sort of thing.
So what would you like others to learn from your story?
I just want to go to the rooftop and scream, "Women, I have something for you that you’ve always been wanting!" And I don’t understand why it’s not legal in all the states now. I look at the person who gave me this strain, and it’s kind of like a little piece of heaven to me. He’s given me something that I have never been able to have.
This interview has been lightly edited for clarity.
Taryn Hillin is Fusion's love and sex writer, with a large focus on the science of relationships. She also loves dogs, Bourbon barrel-aged beers and popcorn — not necessarily in that order.