In our increasingly busy world, a good post-sex cuddle session can be hard to come by. Just ask this girl who resorted to asking Cosmo's sex expert, "How can I get him cuddle with me post-sex?"
Post-coital cuddling should not be left as an afterthought, according to new research from the University of Toronto Mississauga. In fact, affection and quality time spent together after sex can improve a couples' overall sexual satisfaction.
Sexuality and relationship researcher Amy Muise examined the ways that post-sex behavior affected sexual satisfaction in monogamous relationships. She found that it's not all about the sex itself.
"When people think of sex, they tend to be focused on intercourse or orgasm,” said Muise in a press release. “This research suggests that other affectionate aspects of sex are important for sexual and relationship satisfaction.”
Jon Hamm did not get the memo.
To figure out how after-sex affection correlated with overall satisfaction, Muise and her colleagues surveyed 101 people over a 21-day period. Participants were asked to cuddle longer than average (which was 15 minutes) and then report back on the results. While both men and women felt more sexually satisfied after some quality pillow talk, the actual duration of the cuddle session only mattered to women.
Also interestingly, cuddling was even more important for couples with kids.
“Parents often have less time for sex and romance. Time spent cuddling after sex had a stronger impact on their relationships than it did for non-parents,” Muise said.
Muise's advice for couples who want to feel more sexually satisfied?
“If you are able, spend those extra moments with your partner," she said. "Make time for shared intimacy, such as cuddling, kissing and intimate talk.”
And if you're having trouble figuring out how to navigate the post-coital cuddling world, refer to this GQ "How to Cuddle With a Woman After Sex" guide.
Alexandra DiPalma is a producer for Fusion Lightworks, Fusion’s In-house Branded Content Agency.